Best NYC Sex Therapists

A sex therapist is a licensed mental health professional trained to help individuals and couples navigate concerns related to sexuality, intimacy, and relationships. This can include issues like low desire, performance anxiety, difficulty with arousal or orgasm, sexual shame, pain during sex, mismatched libidos, or the impact of trauma on sexual functioning.

Sex therapy sessions typically begin with a collaborative conversation to understand what brings you in and what you hope to explore or change. In ongoing sessions, we may discuss your sexual history, relationship patterns, emotional dynamics, beliefs about sex, and any physical or psychological factors contributing to your concerns. Sex therapy is similar to traditional talk therapy—there is no physical touch involved—and is always paced according to your comfort.

A sex therapist provides a nonjudgmental space to explore vulnerable topics with curiosity and compassion. While some sessions may include education, communication skills, or specific exercises to try at home, the heart of the work is about deepening understanding, reducing shame, and helping you feel more connected to your body, desires, and relational needs.

Identifying factors of a culturally affirmative therapist can include:

• They have experience working with clients from your background.

• They use a therapeutic model or framework that considers cultural factors, such as Narrative Therapy.

• They demonstrate cultural awareness in their approach.

• They create a safe and affirming space, validating your experience.

A sexologist or sex coach may or may not be licensed or clinically trained. While some are highly knowledgeable about sexual health and provide valuable education or guidance, they typically do not offer psychotherapy or treat mental health conditions. Sex coaching often focuses on behavioral change, skill-building, or enhancing pleasure, but may not explore deeper emotional or psychological layers.

As a licensed psychotherapist, I am trained in trauma-informed care, EMDR, and psychodynamic psychotherapy. I have specialized training in sex therapy and provide a holistic, depth-oriented approach that addresses both surface-level challenges and underlying emotional patterns. My goal is to help clients understand their sexual selves more fully, reduce shame, and build satisfying, empowered intimate lives—always within a safe, compassionate therapeutic space.

Open Path is a nonprofit organization and directory with thousands of therapists who provide low cost therapy sessions. You can also filter your search by cost, specialty, language, and more. 

NYC 988 provides free, confidential mental health support, crisis intervention, and referrals to services, regardless of insurance coverage. You can reach them by calling or texting 988, or by chatting online. They offer support in multiple languages, including Spanish. 

In addition to therapy, consider these supportive resources:

Community Centers and Support Groups: Local community centers often host support groups and workshops that can provide emotional support and practical assistance. The LGBT Community Center (The Center) serves as a hub for the LGBTQIA+ community in NYC, offering a range of health and wellness programs, including support groups, counseling, and educational workshops. They provide services on a sliding scale and can assist with referrals to low-cost therapy options.

Educational Workshops: Organizations like NAMI-NYC offer educational programs to help individuals and families understand mental health conditions and develop coping strategies.

The best therapy for sex depends on the individual or couple’s specific needs, concerns, and goals. Sex therapy commonly integrates several evidence-based approaches. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can help clients challenge negative beliefs and anxieties around sex. Mindfulness-based techniques are often used to increase awareness in the body, reduce pressure to perform, and foster more intimacy focused on the here-and-now. Psychodynamic therapy is another tool in sex therapy, as it explores how past experiences and patterns, relationship attachments, and unconscious beliefs shape sexual identity and behaviors.

In my practice, I take a trauma-informed, client-centered approach that integrates psychodynamic, mindfulness, CBT, and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) when appropriate. I focus not only on immediate concerns but also on understanding the emotional and relational context of each client’s sexual life. This integrative method supports long-term growth, authentic intimacy, and a more satisfying sex life.

Yes, sex therapy can be incredibly insightful. Many people struggle in silence with sexual problems, believing they should “just know” how to navigate sexual relationships. But sexuality is personal. It's shaped by our experiences, identities, relationships, and culture. Working with a sex or relationship therapist can help you explore these layers with compassion and curiosity.

Given the prevalence of sexual concerns, sex therapy has been studied and has scientific backing. One study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that sex therapy significantly improved sexual satisfaction and functioning. The American Psychological Association also highlights sex therapy as a powerful tool to address emotional and psychological barriers to intimacy.

In my own practice, I’ve seen clients experience relief, insight, and meaningful change (often for the first time) just by having a safe space to talk about their sex life. Therapy can help you better understand your desires, strengthen communication, rebuild confidence, and deepen intimacy with yourself and sex partners.